True or false? If heterosexual women trolled the parks at all hours of every day, looking for men to anonymously copulate with … heterosexual men would never make it to work and the world as know it would cease to function.
Awhile back, reports of two gay men being shot while engaging in sexual activity in Brooklyn’s Prospect Park set tongues wagging for and against these anonymous encounters. Well … there was a time when trolling a dark trail in the moonlight and happening upon another beautiful young wanderer (who was equally as eager to explode without words), was as thrilling as a hit of crack … and just as addictive. But with the shocking rate of HIV infection in black gay men nearing (arguably) fifty-percent … can we afford to be so hedonistic anymore? Our community has many negative labels attached to it, sex-obsessed perverts who troll the night looking for anonymous sex is just one of them. But this is about men being men … basically … our innate impulse to plant our seed as often as possible. Yeah. No matter how highly we think of ourselves as a species, we may just be animals with iPods and misty dreams of Heaven. I’m not defending anonymous sexual activity, but I do understand it's feral beginnings and advocate self-control and civic responsibility ... in order that we don’t "cease to function" as individuals and as a community. I know some people who literally live for their next encounter, cyber or park ... it's the same compulsion. We're better than that. Although the call of the night can howl like wolves in the distance, I know I'm destined for higher things ... and am not meant to be murdered in a park with my pants around my ankles. It's time we all realized that we're better than that. We are talented and productive members of society, first and foremost, but if we keep acting like irresponsible faggots ... that's how we'll forever be seen.
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What's so irresponsible about having meeting someone for anonymous sex in a park? Shouldn't we instead be focused on people who are murdering the people in parks?
And the headlines are only humiliating if we buy into other's normative ideals that in order to be "responsible" one must exercise "sexual control"--whatever that is. Your idea of sexual control might be someone else's idea of whoredom.
I'm not advocating sexual control ... just personal responsibility.
Some people go around happily sharing their STD's with everyone ... and no matter how you slice it, that's irresponsible.
Also, no matter how off the infection stats are, they are still high enough to be deeply concerned about our own responibility in the matter.
This isn't the sixties anymore, and we better act like we know before we're all dead.
It is important for all of us to excerise a certain amount of restraint.
"What's so irresponsible about having meeting someone for anonymous sex in a park? Shouldn't we instead be focused on people who are murdering the people in parks"
Let me explain the problem with this, when you have people who are engaging in sex in public places, the vast majority aren't breaking out condoms. Hence forth they are either knowingly or unknowingly passing around STDS, that could alter the rest of your life, and could be the reason for your life to cease pre-maturely. Now, the next argument that someone would probably say is that you're taking that chance if you do not practice safe sex, but then using that same logic and rationale, getting murdered is also the chance you take when you go to a park.
Also, no one is saying that sex in the parks should take precendent over those who are murdering, robbing, or etc in the parks. But you are putting yourself in more danger, if you engage or go trolling around in parks.
Hell, even you Bernard Bradshaw you told a story about you almost getting robbed while going to a park.
But is it me or, I thought parks were public places where people in cities, could go and enjoy nature. Not have to worry about seeing a dick, in the bushes...
Just my thoughts
Interesting discussion. My thoughts regarding this are along with wiseyoungman. When you do engage in "nature park sex", besides the STD exposure (if you're not packing condoms), you do take the risk of running into a homophobic person with no qualms on taking a human life.
Then again, you run that risk just going out into the world each day minding your business.
At the end of the day, though, I agree that it is about taking personal responsibility for your actions. It's a free country. If you are looking for a romp in the park, definitely use protection.
I don't understand why people go out and have anonymous sex in public places like parks anyways...if it's a couple, then I understand.
The other thing I would be concerned about going out in the parks having sex is that the safety from homophobic people and law enforcement. It is illegal to have sex in public areas, so why risk getting arrested or be a victim of violence?
It is predominately the responsibility of the people having sex and not the people who attack them because the violence can be prevented if there was no sex taking place.
"animals with iPods". wikid observation lol
no matter what no one should get shot for their expressions (sexual or otherwise). happened here in the UK the other day and heads were being mad ignorant about it.
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well i'm adding you to my list of blogs today, but i will still give my comment.
in the words of 50 cents "I'm not into the save a ho" campaign. It's like trying to stop men from going to strip clubs or watching porn. you can't. and the spreading STDS bullshit, no one can give you anything you protect yourself agains, so if you're aren't protecting yourself, then you deserve it. i really feel so damn passionily that black gay men have to get away from the "finger pointing" and start taking personal responsibility. we need to talk about our fears and mistakes with unprotected sex instead of always acting like we're so damn responsible all the time. but no one knows what you do alone, except you.
Man I am really surprised that people are out defending this very dangerous activity as good freaky fun. It is irresponsible to participate in this kind of behavior. Not only is it a public health problem it puts your physi cal safety in danger and for what?? A freaky freak session? Has the society become so shallow?
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